Parenting is an interesting gig, isn’t it? There are SO many firsts…and SO many lasts! You always know when a first happens. (You don’t always get to experience it- sometimes the firsts happen when you aren’t in the room/vicinity/house!) But you don’t always know when a last happens. Sometimes, you don’t know something is the last time until you have some distance from it and then look back.
But our family recently had a last that we KNOW is a last. In 2005, 13 years ago now, we began the process of “college shopping” with our older son. None of the three of us REALLY knew what we were doing. So, we did the best we could- visiting colleges, talking to counselors, filling out forms, etc. By spring of 2006, a decision was made and the next four years of our lives…and our finances…were mapped out! He graduated from college in the spring of 2010 and has done QUITE well for himself since- working hard, climbing the ladder, earning his way every step.
Now, here we are, 8 years later…doing it all over again with our younger son. And this will be one of those lasts. We recognize right up front it’s a last. We are NOT having any more kids. So. this is the last time we will experience this college-choosing experience. And now…it is done! After looking at several universities, weighing options and praying about it, our younger son recently made THE choice!
There was one step that was still undone- talking in greater detail about finances. So, we recently made an appointment with the Admission Counselor we have been dealing with and we all sat down together to talk about money. And after lots of questions and lots of discussion, we were satisfied that it was “do-able”. That doesn’t mean that all of the nitty-gritty details are yet ironed out- that will still take some time, more discussion and several more scholarship applications. But we were satisfied that it was possible.
So right there in the office, we turned to our younger son and said, “It’s PERECTLY OK to say ‘No’. It’s perfectly OK to say ‘I want to think more about it’. It’s perfectly OK to say, ‘I’m still not sure’. BUT- are you ready to make a decision and take the next step?” He grinned and said, simply, “Yes!” So, we put the Housing Deposit down and he is officially part of the incoming Class of 2022 of his university of choice!
It has been a pretty cool experience both times we helped one of our kids make this monumental decision. The first time we did it was very emotional because- you know- it was the first time. This time has also been very emotional because it’s the LAST time! But what a MAJOR decision to make. Small school? Huge school? Medium-sized school? Closer to home? Farther away? Cost? Good fit? Feels right? Like the community? All of those factors, and several more, enter into the decision. But our experience has been that, when “all the planets align” on a college choice, the kid just knows. Our older son said it when he was college shopping- “this one just feels right”- and our younger son said the same thing.
Now, we enjoy the rest of Senior Year of High School. We support him finishing. We look ahead to the summer of transition. And then…a brand-new adventure begins in the fall! Gotta love how life works!
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